Perfectionism often whispers: “Try harder, do better, then maybe you’ll finally feel worthy.” But no matter how much you accomplish, the finish line keeps moving. This blog explores how childhood expectations especially in family and faith can create a cycle where self-worth becomes performance-based, and what healing can look like.

You don’t have to wait for your parents to understand to start healing. You can grieve what you didn’t get, and rebuild a sense of safety, love, and self-trust from the inside out.

You were taught not to trust your body—but it never stopped trying to protect you. At Found, we help you listen, reconnect, and heal—body and soul.

You don’t owe anyone your gratitude if they hurt you. At Found, we help you honor the full truth of your story—with compassion, clarity, and zero shame.

If you were taught that love had conditions, let us remind you: it doesn’t. At Found, we help queer clients heal from religious trauma and build lives rooted in truth, safety, and unconditional self-love.

Your inner critic isn’t who you are—it’s who you had to become to stay safe. At Found, we help you understand it, soften it, and reconnect with the parts of you that believe you’re already enough.

Leaving religion can feel like a death, and a birth. At Found, we help you grieve what you’ve lost, reclaim what’s yours, and begin again with compassion and clarity.

Safety in relationships isn’t boring—it’s beautiful. At Found, we help you rewire what love feels like by honoring your needs, your boundaries, and your nervous system.

Masking kept you safe—but now it’s safe to be yourself. At Found, we help you gently unmask, rebuild your identity, and reconnect with the parts of you that were never broken.

Some losses don’t come with closure—but they still change you. At Found, we help you grieve what’s gone, honor what mattered, and move forward with compassion.

You’re not too late to become who you are. At Found, we hold space for gender exploration in adulthood—with compassion, curiosity, and zero judgment.

You can honor what your past gave you and still walk away. Healing isn't black and white—it's about making peace with the gray. At Found, we help you hold space for your whole story.

You don’t have to keep sacrificing your peace to keep the family “together.” Boundaries aren’t betrayal—they’re protection. At Found, we help you untangle toxic patterns and reclaim your voice, your safety, and your worth.

You can keep showing up—or you can start showing up for yourself. High-functioning depression is still depression. At Found, we help you move from survival mode into real connection, rest, and healing.

You don’t have to remember everything to know that something wasn’t right. At Found, we help you listen to your body’s wisdom, gently explore your story, and build safety from the inside out.

Love isn’t the absence of conflict—it’s learning how to find your way back to each other. At Found, we help couples move from reactivity to repair and build relationships that feel safer, deeper, and more connected.

Coming out isn’t a single moment—it’s a process of becoming. If you’re exploring your LGBTQIA+ identity in adulthood, you’re not late. You’re brave. At Found, we walk alongside you with affirming support every step of the way.

Autism isn’t a problem to solve—it’s a way of experiencing the world. At Found, we help autistic adults unmask, heal from burnout, and reconnect with themselves on their own terms.

OCD isn’t about being neat. It’s about being trapped in a cycle of fear and ritual where your brain screams danger, even when you know it’s not real. At Found, we help you stop surviving and start living again.

Trauma isn’t just what happened—it’s how your body remembers it. You might not think you’ve had “trauma,” but if you’ve ever felt stuck in survival mode, like you can’t relax or fully trust yourself or others, your nervous system might be carrying more than you realize.